Signing up agrees to our terms of use. However, this love was not reciprocated, but I was still kept as a confidant and best friend while my friend dated someone else. I worry about my friend and this new relationship but no longer say anything about it. Is there anything I can do? For my heart? For my friend? Honestly, this just sucks.

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My first two years of college give or take I had a best friend named Miriam. Our group of friends might grow or shrink depending on the semester, but she and I were always together, day in and day out. I asked her out a few times, but she always turned me down; our relationship was purely platonic and she would not let me out of the friendzone, but I didn't care. It's hard to be friends with a girl you have feelings for, but I was a natural flirt; getting over rejection and meeting new girls was my weekly routine, and I wasn't going to lose my absolute best friend over it. She and I did everything together. We watched movies together, went shopping together, cooked meals together; her roommates and acquaintances all thought I was her boyfriend. I gave her back-rubs something I would normally encourage friend-zoned men to NEVER do, but again, I was a natural flirt and I wanted to work on my technique , and we were always talking into the night about all sorts of things. Specifically, her frustration that no guys ever asked her out. I don't think she ever made the first move with a guy, ever.
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Having a best friend from the opposite sex gives you the chance to explore what the others do, think or like. You get to be exposed to all the terrible things they do, their kind of drama and how to easily win their hearts. How amazing is that? Because guys know other guys and they are We have all been in this place where we doubted ourselves. We doubted our personalities, our looks and even our social skills. But this amazing friend always reminds you of how great of a person you are, and you will believe them because if a guy tells you are beautiful, then it sounds more real! Well, I can assure you that most guys are not as naive as they seem to be.
In , When Harry Met Sally posed a question that other pop-cultural entities have been trying to answer ever since: Can straight men and women really be close friends without their partnership turning into something else? According to The Office , no. According to Lost in Translation , yes. According to Friends … well, sometimes no and sometimes yes. Screenwriters have been preoccupied with this question for a long time, and according to a new study published in the Journal of Relationships Research , the question is also likely to be on the minds of people whose romantic partners have best friends of the opposite sex. For the study, Eletra Gilchrist-Petty, an associate professor of communication arts at the University of Alabama in Huntsville, and Lance Kyle Bennett, a doctoral-degree student at the University of Iowa, recruited people, ranging in age from 18 to 64, who were or had been in a heterosexual relationship with someone who had a different-sex best friend. The possibility of romance between friends of the opposite sex has not just fascinated writers and directors for decades; it has also been a frequent topic of study for psychologists and sociologists.