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Of all the New Year's resolutions you could make — better overall health, learning something new daily, practicing gratitude, etc. And that includes your more ahem intimate ones. Regardless of whether your current sex life is stagnant or sizzling, there's always room for improvement. That said, if one of your goals is mastering just how to have the best sex ever , you might be curious to know how the most satisfied people are behaving in the bedroom and beyond. Recently Pure Romance conducted a survey of 2, sexually active Americans, and the results might just surprise you. Overwhelmingly, the participants seem to genuinely be enjoying their sex lives, with 79 percent reporting that they were "happy" with how things were going in that department and 44 percent rating as their best year for sex yet. Before digging into what these people may or may not have been practicing that kept them feeling satisfied, it's also helpful to examine the factors that lead to a healthy sex life, according to the experts. Pataky also attributes the rise in sexual confidence and satisfaction to the fact that American culture has come so far in terms of being able to express certain desires — which includes preferences and orientation as well as fantasies.
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When it comes to knowing what makes your partner tick in the bedroom, tutorials on " mind-blowing sex positions " only get you so far. Stimulating and gratifying sex is all in the timing, the communication, and spontaneity, according to Dr. Bea Jaffrey—a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist based in Switzerland—and Mary Jo Rapini, a Houston-based psychiatrist and sex therapist. Keep scrolling to find expert suggestions from Rapini on what works in the bedroom and tips from Jaffrey's new book on overcoming common sex issues, Mistakes Couples Make in the Bedroom. Research suggests that better communication is key to better sex , and no, we don't necessarily mean dirty talk. Communicating what you like and don't like can be instructional and informative as you get to know each other's bodies. If he's doing something you like, say so rather than relying on ambiguous gestures or noises. And if it's something you're not into, communicate that or guide him in a new direction.
She got on top, pinned my arms down, and then proceeded to use me to get herself off. I could understand that sounding selfish, but being used as an object for her sexual pleasure was absolutely awesome. We had traveled there to get a FL marriage license because we were getting married in Key West later in the month. We were both exhausted and a little delirious when we finally checked into the hotel and got to our room. We both had the most mind blowing orgasms simultaneously, we just laid there spooning while I was still inside her until we fell asleep. We awoke maybe 12 hours later and went for round two… been chasing that high ever since.