The pleasure of oral sex is, for many people, one of the joys of being human. Might I remind you that the clitoris —the rosebud-like bump at the top of the vulva—is extraordinarily sensitive? Because not everything works the same way for every person with a vulva, my job can be rather difficult. So, to get some nitty gritty, down-to-earth assistance, I asked 15 people with vaginas for their best oral sex advice. Of course these are the tips, tricks, and preferences of 15 specific people. And by the way, when you're figuring out how to make oral sex awesome, be sure to take into account the desires not only of the receiver, but of the giver. Everyone involved deserves to have exactly the experience they want. This part of your body can feel especially intimate, so you have to feel safe with your partner s even in casual situations. Letting go of inhibitions and focusing on what feels good to you can bring you amazing pleasure. Laurel, 41, from Los Angeles says that the best oral sex of her life was with a man who made her feel like she could be completely present and laid bare—in the best way.
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Penis-in-vagina sex is not the be-all-end-all of sex. Oral sex can be just as pleasurable — if not more so — than penetrative sex. You know whose genital juice tastes like cookies and cream? We all have a taste down there. Avoid garlic, onions, asparagus, and cabbage, which reportedly make for a less-than-pleasant flavor. Any skin-to-skin contact with the genitals can spread STIs. The same goes for contact with vaginal, penile, or anal secretions. But did you know that you should be getting regular oral exams , too?
It's the top sexual act for successfully reaching orgasm. Having a partner's full concentration on your clitoris, vulva, and vagina allows you to lie back and enjoy the pleasure to the fullest. Even though some people are a little apprehensive about oral sex, consider being open to exploration. Getting up close and personal with your partner's taste and smell, and figuring out how they like to be touched, licked, and rubbed can be sexy. There are so many ways to receive and give oral sex.
